Communication between parents and children plays a major role. Adolescents don’t like to communicate with the elders. They prefer to be alone or accompany their friends. As a parent, you have to know what your child is doing and what kind of friends they have. But this doesn’t mean that you have to spy on your child and question like a police officer.

Let your child speak and try to be an observer and a good listener. Don’t cross question the child more often. They would prefer being silent rather talking to you. Rather than asking ‘what kept you so long at school’, you can say ‘I missed you for lunch’ this would make your child feel close to you and she or he would open their mind to you.

Spend more time

Make it a habit to have your meals together. Dining together is one great opportunity to talk with your child. The more your child talks to you, the more you know what he is up to and the more you show interest in listening to him, the more he feels home. Talk with your children about their dreams, their interests and their friends. Remember, let them talk and you become the listener.

Good communication opens many doors to enter to one’s heart. Be the best friend of your child. Let him/her trust you more than any other friend. This would save your child from harm and would give you the satisfaction of being a good parent.

Don’t command

When you want them to do something, join along with them and help them to accomplish the task. For example, don’t ask your child to go and pray, instead invite him to join you in prayers.

Give them responsibility

Let them feel that you trust their capabilities. Ask them to be the Imam and you follow them in your prayers. This builds confidence in them. My children often fight but the time I ask my eldest to take care of his sister he becomes the best brother ever. That’s how a teenager feels and acts when he is given trust and self confidence.

Appreciation

Always appreciate the good deeds and behavior of your child no matter how tiny they are. Appreciation is a very important kind of motivation that will encourage your child to try his best towards being a better person. Sometimes, you better appreciate his good deeds and ignore things that you don’t like specially when they are not that big issues.

Damages have their own costs

This doesn’t mean that you have to agree with all what your child says. Be diplomatic. A child’s heart is like a mirror. Once broken you cannot fix them without leaving scars. But you can teach them to see their reflection through their actions.

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